A Snippet from Uncovering OurSelves..

At the core of our wounds lie unmet needs, while at the core of our healing is meeting them.

Understanding Our Needs..

Now this might sound SO simple that you're feeling discouraged that this is actually a lesson..

..but the truth is, unmet needs are at the heart of emotional pain, just as we found out when we realized unmet needs from our childhood are what led to the the majority of our unhealthy patterns, and current protective parts.

If that didn't sell you well then try eating a cake without sugar or eggs in it. Yup, chances are that cake is shit.

Humans are no different.

There is a reason Snickers has had so much success with their commercial " You're not you when you're hungry."

We have specific needs that if unmet, and chronically unmet, can shift the entire personality of a person.

In my own experience, I hadn't even realized that I was not meeting my needs until years into my journey when my support systems at the time had helped me to realize why I was feeling so much anxiety, and resentment.

I was putting other's needs over my own in hopes that that would make me feel better.

It didn’t!

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So, a key point here is that as we can become better at knowing what our needs are, and getting really good at meeting those needs, we uncover and come home to our Core Self more and more. While the opposite is also true.. the more that we disregard what truly feels important to us the further we disrupt that relationship to our Core Self.

It's easy, just imagine.. would you want to be friends with someone who was always talking about themselves, constantly disregarding what you wanted to do, or not respecting the boundaries that you had in place?

I don't think so.

The opposite is true too, the more caring, present, and real we are with our friends the better the relationship often gets.

So how do we do that with ourSelves?

Well, you'll find out in the next video..